1-416-561-5780Growth on the dualistic plane must always be loaded with fear of the undesirable opposite. Therefore, your growth process will be withheld as long as you view your goal of growth as good, as opposed to bad.
Growth cannot come by opposing the opposition; it comes only when you no longer fear one opposite, no longer cling fearfully to the other. Then, and only then, can you reach the unitive state. But you cannot do so as long as fear is in your heart. On the unitive plane, growth is not threatened by an opposite; hence it need not be feared, nor opposed.
Dualistic growth is a cyclic movement, with an upward curve, a peak, and a downward curve that perpetually recycles itself, always expressing two opposites. The dualistic state is the state of cause and effect.
Growth in the unitive state expands infinitely. It never repeats and never needs an opposing motion. It has transcended the principle of cause and effect.
When somehow you grasp this, — and this grasp comes from facing personal inner errors and self-deceptions — then an entirely new approach to growth takes over.
One of the landmarks in one’s transition from the dualistic to the unitive state is that one begins to perceive that every living moment contains the potential for joy and peace.
Being in truth with yourself, you no longer fear anything, because you derive joy from both opposites of the dualistic state.
This transformation begins to bring an increasing unfolding and enrichment into your outer circumstances so harmoniously and organically that it may appear almost coincidental.
These outer improvements may or may not coincide with ideas and ideals you used to hold on the dualistic plane. Your goals may remain unchanged, but the way you experience these goals, ideas and ideals is entirely different.
This transformation may initially occur only in some areas of our life, while the same process may take longer to occur in other areas.
In the dualistic state we become used to perceive one position as desirable and its opposite as undesirable. Thus we cling to the idea that construction is always good, while destruction is always bad.
To understand the unitive state we must recognize that destruction of error can be desirable, and construction of error is undesirable.
Destruction is always a painful process, whether or not it is desirable. While the edifices of error are being destroyed your life may be upset. But stemming against the organic and desirable movement, you prolong the painful, transitional period — painful primarily because it is misunderstood. You feel, “Here I am, trying so hard, yet look what happens in spite of it all! Everything seems to run like sand between my fingers; I not only fail to find fulfillment, but even the pleasures I had are gone.”
The unitive state can be reached principally by two roads, both opposites of the dualistic state. It can be reached on and through the “good” side as well as on and through the “bad” side.
When you are in a relative state of inner health and truth, where you are already somewhat free from fear and possess confidence and a genuine sense of the benign nature of the universe, you can find within yourself absolute health and truth and become free of fear and distrust.
You know that your good never interferes with anyone’s good. Your good does not bring any bad for anyone. When you have reached this state, then you can directly find the unitive principle deep within yourself.
When you are still in a state of untruth and distortion and you therefore fear and distrust yourself and the world, you can transcend this state only by accepting what you fear.
But this should not be done in a spirit of masochistic self-denial. It should be done with the open question whether what you fear is truly fearsome. In other words, you must question the concept that causes the fear of the alternative instead of opposing the alternative itself.
One must be prepared to relinquish what one insists upon to the extent of accepting that the desired alternative will not occur.
Letting go does not mean self-defeating, sacrificial self-deprivation. It means to accept that, wherever you recognize a point of fear and hopelessness, you must relinquish the concept underlying this fear.
This may appear as though you exposed yourself to what you consider most undesirable. But this chance must be taken in order to find out that the whole idea was an illusion; otherwise, you cannot come out of your perpetual state of fear and conflict.
The only way you can transcend this state is by temporarily accepting it, knowing that it is not final. This means that you not only accept the limitations of the outer situation, but your own limited state at this time. When you give up your opposition to your present undesirable state, you can find the truth, and it will be possible to conciliate two apparent opposites.
The only way to genuinely free oneself from fear is to taste and discover that it holds no terror, that it can be coped with, that one remains essentially intact.
When you find where and how you oppose something because you tightly cling to its opposite, you will again be making a substantial step toward growth into the unitive principle.