1-416-561-5780Consider an area of your life where you are unhappy with your performance so far. Regarding this area, answer the following questions (make notes to yourself):
♦ Do you feel that you experience, everything to the maximum of your potential?
♦ What might disturb you, possibly more than you admit?
♦ Do you have any real discomfort, like a physical or emotional pain, or a frustration perhaps, in connection with your unsatisfactory performance in the area under consideration?
♦ What are possible reasons that may have been restricting your good performance in that area?
Both your positive desires and their negative counterparts are associated with some form of pleasure, either positive or negative, but pleasure, nevertheless. This makes it difficult not only to identify but even more so to let go of the negative desires that oppose the realization of the positive ones.
Confront yourself with the objective of finding possible reasons (perhaps negative pleasures) why you might desire to have the above restrictions. A hint for that confrontation is to examine possible excuses that you may give (perhaps unconsciously, so far) to yourself and/or to others for your unsatisfactory performance. Another hint is to examine the possibility of deriving some pleasure in keeping the restrictive conditions.
♦ Can you identify possible conflicts between a negative desire that could restrict your good performance and your positive desire to achieve results?
You may repeat this exercise focusing on different areas of your life, such as your profession, your relations with friends, family or love partners.